The Duggar Family Cover Up

Ok, here it goes, on the issue of the Duggar family… while I am not the least bit surprised at this news, I am upset about a few things that have been reported and I simply cannot stomach anymore.

When Josh Duggar was a young teenager he committed, in my opinion, a series of crimes against children for which he and his family should not be let off the hook for. Many people are saying “ oh well he was a teenager, let it go “, to which I answer, no way! For those who believe that because it happened years ago I say what about these very real facts of life…that people who commit this crime in particular, and it is a crime, the repeat rate percentage is astronomical and everyone who deals with sexual abuse victims, pedophilia, and incestuous behaviour, can prove beyond all shadow of a doubt that this behaviour just does not stop with out a great deal of professional intervention of all types. Josh Duggar from all reports never had to truly deal with the effects of his horrific actions and he must be brought to take true responsibility for what he has done once and for all. When it was first discovered that he had been acting out sexually and inappropriately toward young children, his parents turned to the church and a family friend where it was decided that instead of calling the authorities the family friend would take Josh into his construction company and make him perform some so called hard labour for a few months. The church and Josh’s family were, in my opinion again, at this point, avoiding the reality of the situation and became complicit in this crime at that point. Advising Josh and his family to lawyer up and go to this construction company for a while was pure avoidance and enabling Josh to do it again, which he did. After Josh left the so called hard labour he committed another sexual abuse and then Jim Bob Duggar hired a lawyer to ensure that Josh never had to answer child protective services who were at this point investigating. Jim Bob also asked a friend of his, a sheriff, who is now incarcerated himself, to talk to Josh and try to straighten him out, talk about laughable! There are five or more victims here people! There has been no therapy, counselling, law enforcement intervention, nothing! A couple of the victims are Josh’s own siblings! That is incest! I don’t care if it happened ten years ago or ten minutes ago, what the hell does that matter? He is a child sexual abuser period, end of story. People say that he needs to be forgiven, or he should be forgiven, I choose not to but ok so most people will forgive him, but what TLC and the Duggar family need to think about and remember is that while he may be forgiven, this matter will not be forgotten! TLC has only suspended this show but it needs to cancel it period. No one wants to see these hypocritical people any longer and TLC needs to forget about the money and it needs to smarten up. This is not TLC’s first foul up, need we say anything more than Honey Boo Boo and Jon and Kate?

What happened when Jim Bob ran for office in 2002 and took a very strong stance in regards to rape and incest and sexual abuse, saying such perpetrators should be executed? Now what does he do when his own son turns out to be a sexual deviant? He avoids the law and covers up for his son and family, all in the name of money, fame and power and it is sickening. There are petitions on line now, one to have the show cancelled and one to bring the family back and carry on as if nothing happened, what the hell is going on out there? If it were a child in your family that had been abused by another family member would you be so ready to just cover it up and say that all is forgiven? The Duggars are hypocrites, hiding behind God and the bible to avoid the real world consequence’s that Josh should have been facing all along. The nineteen children they have brought in to the world have clearly suffered through some abhorrent behaviour and Michelle and Jim Bob covered it up and for all we know this is only the beginning of the truth this family has tried so hard to cover up. Nineteen children, all home schooled, all raised by people who quite obviously have poor moral judgment. This family may not be a cult, but they behave like they are and I want the parents as well as Josh held accountable for all of it, just as you and I would be if we were to engage in such behaviour and the subsequent cover up attempt. Josh should be on the registry and not be allowed to go near any ones child to include his own. His wife and her family have made a point of saying that they support Josh and given that his wife is now pregnant with their fourth child I can see why she might say such a thing, but it does not make it right. Maybe he lied to her, maybe she doesn’t understand that he could do it to their children if he has not already, how could you as a mother have knowledge that your husband has done this and allow your children any where near him? The fact that she married him knowing all of this speaks to her lack of good judgement for sure. Like what about this man says that he would be a good man to have children with? Money, money, money. She should be away from him immediately unless or until Josh gets real, and lasting treatment and faces up to what he has done in very responsible and transparent ways. How do we know that Josh has stopped this behaviour? How does she know? Sexual deviants are very good at covering up what they do, and they often threaten their victims with horrible consequences such as hurting family members or the victims themselves, we don’t know that Josh has truly changed do we? If you talk to other perpetrators they openly say that they are always haunted by the urge to be sexual with children, they tell us that it isn’t something that anyone can just get over, so why would we believe the Duggar family when they say that it was all in the past and not an issue now when there has been no real responsibility taken and no real help sought out for Josh and his victims? What about the victims? How are they supposed to be healthy happy individuals when the parents and Josh are only going to fill their brains with avoidance? These people are teaching these victims that they do not matter and that Josh means more than their pain and suffering and that is simply wrong in every way. The church ought to be ashamed of itself as well but they are so beholding to the Duggars that they cannot see the forest through the trees, the Duggars probably pay for a lot of church events or programs and the notoriety the family has received through television has been very valuable for the church so they will go along with the Duggars despite the fact that they know it is wrong, because again, it’s about the money.

I am simply tired of these people smiling in our faces, and hiding the dirty secrets they so desperately worked to cover up. It is so typical, but it is also our fault as a society, we did this to ourselves. We too often put religious people and others on a pedestal and look to them as role models and show our children that they can strive to be like these people, only to either tear them down ourselves or watch them implode of their own making. I think that what bothers me most is that the Duggar clan has been so judgemental over the years toward many other people and issues and here they are sinners themselves and they will not admit it! Saying that they are not a perfect family does not cut it, admit it and face the music and then maybe I will believe you. TLC cannot convince me that they didn’t know about this, again the money speaks louder than anything. The executives at TLC has been negligent  and have put money in front of morals and values and they need to be fired. The Honey Boo Boo issue should have taught them well but it did not and here we are again, it’s time for heads to roll and for everyone involved to be held to account for putting the viewership through all of this yet again. TLC’s statement in part said “ we are saddened “ I bet you are, saddened that you have been caught yet again! No one has had good judgement in this matter and no one has cared about the most important part in all of this…the victims.

In Josh’s statement he stated that his parents sought counselling for him and the victims, in his statement he talks about himself a heck of a lot more than he does the victims, but what was this counselling if it even happened? Was it the church? The church that is beholding to the Duggars? The church has never been equipped to deal with such deep matters, not ever, the church in fact covers most, if not all of it up. Saying that God has forgiven Josh is wrong, we do not know that he has and Josh is still around these children on a daily basis! How many of us could bare being around our abuser all the time? Did Jim Bob and Michelle look at the kids and say “ God has forgiven Josh so you should too”, did they force the victims into submission and in a way abuse them yet again? This is so wrong. How do we know that Josh wasn’t sexually abused and has learned this behaviour from someone who abused him? How dare this mother and father leave these victims to fend for themselves morally while they busy themselves trying to get back on television. All reports and indicators point to the fact that if any counselling took place it was only temporary and done by church officials, how many times has history taught us that this will not work? The victims deserve the very best in therapy and counsel and care, and for a very long time to come, Jim Bob and Michelle have money, so do the right thing, walk away from the show and get your children into exhaustive professional therapy and work for the rest of your lives to ensure that these victims do not suffer any more than they already have. There is no way a woman with nineteen children could focus on each child equally and grow them all up properly. No one has that kind of strength and wisdom, not for nineteen children. There is probably a lot of suffering going on in that family, and the children may not even understand. These children have suffered in many ways and we have all been blind to it. Jim Bob could not have been a proper father to all of them either, he was probably out making money to support his family and Michelle just kept getting pregnant, it was their choice and their faith that brought all of this to be so now they must face the music. They have nineteen children that they, and they alone are responsible for, and they probably make the older children do a lot of the child rearing here and that is not fair. They believe that God and God alone allows them to have as many children as possible, but what about your own ability to choose? They didn’t have to have so many children, they could have stopped at any point and decided that they were only able to raise a few children properly, not to make the older ones responsible for their choices. God does not make anyone do anything, God gave us choice and for the Duggars to say that their faith brought them to this point is ridiculous. God would have loved them if they had had two children, they could have God in their lives no matter what number of children they chose to have, but to have nineteen and then cause suffering to these children is wrong, just plain wrong. They have judged so many people in the ten seasons that they have been on the air, they have held themselves up as a moral compass for us all, they did that, no one forced them to, and they have made money from all of it, and become a brand, and lied about who and what they really are in order to keep making money, so why should they be forgiven, or what they have done be forgotten?

History always shows us that when ever people place themselves in such high moral regard, they always get what’s coming to them because no one is better than anyone else on this planet and it is high time that we all stop falling for this garbage that TLC and others try to cram down our throats. Everyone sins, politicians lie, religious people lie and cheat and steal, every profession on earth has good people and bad people, police officers are both good and bad, even the Pope has sinned, so why do we constantly and repeatedly put people up as examples to live by when we know damned well that no one is perfect and no one can live a perfect life? Why do we put ourselves under such a ridiculous amount of pressure? What are we accomplishing by being so dishonest with ourselves? Think of all the athletes that are put up on pedestals and paid such vast amounts of money and then their careers and lives come crashing down because they beat their wives or do drugs or murder someone? I have seen so much of this amoral behaviour in my lifetime and because I have seen such hypocrisy I simply do not trust anything or anyone any longer, how can I? I have seen indecent and criminal behaviour in every profession, witnessed the same in all walks of life, all income brackets, all races, all faiths, so who are we trying to fool here? It is ridiculous to keep trying to live such inauthentic lives.

The Duggars are simply the latest example of our inability to be honest with ourselves as a society. They show us yet again that liars and abusers are every where and we need to be ever vigilant in order to protect ourselves from the horrors they inflict upon us. If TLC does not remove these people permanently from it’s programming then we must hit them right where it hurts them most and that is their financial bottom line. Stop watching TLC and make them a distant memory. The only way these money hungry, morally lacking television executives will get the message is if we as viewers take a stand and show them how we feel about the Duggars in particular but TLC’s negligence as well.


WittyRaised Eyebrow


Getting Better…what a wonderful life!

To all who have written me emails and kept in touch the old fashioned way, thank you from the bottom of my heart. It has been a very tough journey to say the least but I am now feeling better after all the surgery, after all the chemo, and what is now a new chapter in my life. Life is very different now, I am not at all the same after the journey with cancer, but it is still life and that is what matters most. I had as anyone can imagine, some very tough times, but I also had some great support in my family and friends and for that I will always be eternally grateful.

I still have a surgery ahead of me at the end of March, and there are definite after affects from the chemo to deal with, however not to worry, I am pretty sure that all will work out the way it is meant to and that gives me hope and makes me want so much to keep up the fight. I really want to help others who have been through this battle, or are going through it now, or may go through it in the future. I learned many things on this journey and in my opinion, one of the most important is that having a support system is absolutely crucial. I met people who had support as I did, and I met others who did not, and the difference was shocking. To see those who had no one by their side to help them carry on and be strong was so sad and made me truly appreciate every person in my life and every moment they could give me. With out help I would not be the person that I am and so it really matters to me to give that same feeling of support and strength to others. After I recover from what I pray will be my last surgery I will rise from the ashes and reach out to my fellow warriors and provide them with the love they really need and so richly deserve…anyone who wants to join me in giving a helping hand to those with cancer is more than welcome to join me.

Thank you for reading this and I will be back in touch soon…love you all

Cancer at age 53, a battle I pray that I can win…part one

I have been waiting a long time to get back to writing, as you can see it has been forever since I wrote anything but here I am back at it again and I could not be happier. I will be getting fully in to the reasons for my absence in the days to come but for now let me just share with you that I have just had a major surgery and only now am I able to sit upright long enough to write this to you all. It was a life changing operation and it was all because I was a very, very, stupid woman. Yes I am talking about cancer, breast cancer to be precise, and because October is breast cancer awareness month, and now that I can include myself in the numbers of men and women who fight to survive this horrendous illness, it is only fitting that I begin to do my part to hopefully pay it forward by sharing my experience with as many people as I can. I also hope that WordPress will do it’s part to further the cause by realizing how many of their users are going through cancer themselves or definitely know someone who is…hopefully WordPress gives to a cause or many causes that further the eradication of any and all cancers from this planet, and if not, well shame on you.

As the title of this blog states, I am at present 53 years of age, and the reason I got cancer, although somewhat debatable to some, is because I smoked cigarettes for 41 years. In June of this year I discovered a lump in my right breast and from that moment on, as in the case of many others, my life changed forever. I called my husband in to the bedroom and asked him if he felt anything and when he did the look on his face was just about more than I could take. You see my husband is a quiet and brave man, you know, the strong silent type, and in that moment when he felt the lump in my breast his face told me that strength and bravery had given way to fear and confusion, if only for a brief few minutes, the change had happened and we both understood, with out saying a word, that nothing was ever going to be ” normal “, or at least our normal, ever again. It was sad, it was frightening, but it was also the beginning of a new normal, I just didn’t understand that at the time.

What followed was normal too, a whole series of doctors appointments and tests that are humiliating and down right upsetting to the human spirit and anyone’s self esteem. You become, because of this wretched cancer, a part of a system that takes away your dignity, your independence, and your ability to direct your own course in life and it hurts like hell. That is all normal too but when you are going through it, like a lamb being led to the slaughter, there is nothing normal or calming or comforting about it. Suddenly there are a whole bunch of new people in your life, most are smiling at you and telling you that everything will be okay, but some are of course down trodden and look as though they are just waiting for you to kick the bucket. Tests like needle biopsies and mammograms and ultra sounds and other tests that I can hardly remember, all conducted by people who for the most part really care about their jobs and the patients they take care of every day, can make a person feel dizzy and confused and lost, but if you are fortunate enough to have someone sit you down and speak to you in plain english, someone who will tell you the whole and sometimes ugly truth, then you can gain some as-semblance of clarity and hopefully make some choices that make sense to you and those who are on the journey with you. Keeping your sanity and strength and faith is the most difficult thing here, remembering the you, you were before the madness of cancer took over is the key to your survival, as has been said many times by those much wiser than myself, you are not your illness, it cannot define you, never let it define who you are…

End of part one….thanks for stopping by….Witty



With the introduction and addition of the latest in the “Real Housewives” series known as the Real Housewives of D.C. I have to say that I have finally gotten tired of the whole so-called “Real Housewives” franchise of television shows. I have just started watching the D.C. show and it actually made me feel dirty because I have never seen such a pathetic display of shallow and dishonest behaviour in all of my lifeStriaght Face. I will be clear, not all of the women on each of these shows bother me, but quite a few do and I do not understand why the producers of these shows don’t understand that all they are doing is insulting the intelligence of their viewers. Let’s address each show on an individual basis shall we?

The Real Housewives of D.C., the newest of the franchise, is with out a doubt the most obnoxious of the lot. I will tell you that I think that Linda, Mary, and Stacy, are, up until this point any way, seemingly genuine people, Cat and Michayel Salahy however are the most pretentious and horrifyingly shallow women that I have ever seen in my life! Sad really because if these women had an ounce of sanity they would understand that because they are on television the chance to further the causes and issues that all women face every day is a blessing that they could take control of and push forward on, therefore helping every one in a positive way.

Cat, with her snotty and judgemental character is enough to make me want to smash my television in, and it has nothing to do with her very deep and droll accent, I have to say though that the accent certainly doesn’t help matters to be sure. Cat acts as if the whole world owes her a daily life of wine and roses and that we all should bend over backwards to please her because it’s her world and we should deem ourselves lucky that she allows us to live on the same planet with her royal smugnessRolling Eyes. She is about to have a book published about her life and if her behaviour on the show is any indication it will probably be the most boring and mind numbingly stupid book that has come out in a long time. I mean who cares about this woman, and who the hell is she any wayConfused? Better yet, why should we care about what she might or might not have to say, for heavens sake, she is hardly anyone’s life coach hahahaha!!! If she is the example of what a Real” housewife is supposed to be well kill me now because I don’t want to live in a world where Cat stands as someone we need to aspire to beTalk to the hand.Even her husband has a problem with her snotty tone, but he’s a big boy, he made his choice so he will have to live with it, the sad part here is that this woman is actually some ones motherSurprise! Oh my, if I had her as a mother when I was growing up I would have run for the hills because Cat is truly embarrassing to all women, and the fact that she is raising two daughters is truly frightening! Cat has absolutely nothing to add in a positive or inspiring way to the lives of any one and is totally un-relatable to most of the women on this planet so I will never think enough of her to do any thing more than ignore her.

As for Michayel Salahy, and her ridiculous husband, the two of them make me want to throw up in my mouthSick! When you watch these two simpletons you cannot help but get the immediate feeling that you are being conned. Terac, if that is his real name, is a jerk, and not even a smart jerk, he is so obvious and so grossly filled with self importance that it actually makes a person feel nauseous. Linda, one of the other wives may be hitting the nail on the head with her developing theory that Michayel is being controlled by this idiot Terac, and a part of me believes that it may not be only about control, but also about abuse and that makes me very sad.  The two of them together are wrecking havoc all over D.C. and beyond and the thing about it is that they actually seem to believe that we all believe their act! They don’t pay their bills, they are always putting on a show by plastering on the most phony smiles that I have ever seen, they can’t arrive any where with out putting on a show, and they are liars. Maybe they just don’t get that they are insulting our intelligence and that we see right through them but I think that they do and that they are going to keep shoving themselves down our throats any way because that is what fame whores do. Let me make it clear that if there is any abuse going on in the Salahy relationship that it must end, and apparently the two of them have been fired from the show, but it’s important here that the two of them be totally exposed so that perhaps help can be given and the man I see as a con can be dealt with once and for all.  Also, if the producers of this disaster known as the “Real Housewives of D.C.” are aware of any wrong doings by the Salahy’s and they haven’t said any thing because they have profited from the exposure they gave to this couple then they too need to be held accountable.

Now to the “Real Housewives of New Jersey”, my goodness, this set of women are enough to make any one who may be Italian wish that they weren’t! The only two women on this show that make any sort of sense and may be kind of “normal” are Dina and Jacquelyn. Caroline, Teresa, and ( yuck ) Danielle, are absolute nut cases! Yes I am including Caroline in that wacky category. Caroline is like some sort of throw back to a Mafia wife and she truly fancies herself like some sort of family boss in her own mind, it’s ridiculous! Caroline, the enforcerRolling on the floor oh my goodness who the heck does she think she is? She gets upset when people try to judge her and pigeon hole the shows participants as “typical” Italians but for heavens sake she is the reason that Italians can’t always get past old stereo types! When she speaks she tries to hold court and says things that make me as an Italian squirm in my chair because she is threatening any one who might not agree with her or her families choices and then she wonders why people have an issue with her? Yo, Caroline, get a grip will yahSilly, you are becoming a joke to Italian women every where and you certainly don’t represent me!

As for Teresa, what a hot mess of a woman she is in my opinion. I feel a bit bad for Joe her husband but not entirely. Joe works his tail off but he also allowed Teresa to spend them all into submission. He is a bit of a puzzle to me because on the one hand he acts like, and appears to be a cave dweller with definite male chauvinist behaviours, and on the other hand he lets Teresa walk all over him in many ways so it’s all a bit on the confusing side. Another thing that disgusts me about these two is that they are teaching their children to be spoiled little morons and that is appalling to me. I am not all that concerned about their oldest child modelling because after observing her she seems to really love it but we do need to be serious here, as this little one gets older things may not work out for her in the modelling world so maybe putting all of your eggs in one basket isn’t the wisest thing to do? All of their kids are terribly spoiled though and I know that they would disagree with that but the kids are just crazy spoiled and I wouldn’t bank on that being a good thing any time soon. The kids throw fits and scream and demand clothes and what ever they want and Teresa and Joe have no one to blame but themselves. These girls are going to be holy terrors as they get older and that’s pretty scary. Joe is in a lot of debt, Teresa spends money like there is no tomorrow, and these children don’t have a hope in hell of dealing with the real world in an honest and responsible way because their parents are living in some sort of twisted fantasy world that will not serve these children well in the future. Shame on you Joe and Teresa, shame on you. I don’t care about your stupid sex lives, nor does it matter to me how much marble and granite that you have in the home that you so clearly cannot afford, what matters to me is the little children that watch every thing going on around them and are going to learn how to behave in the world from the two of you and I truly fear for their futures. Teresa’s hot temper and Joe’s obvious distance from reality which is purposeful is not in any way good for anyone to see.

Danielle, you are a train wreck, filled with self importance which truly exists only in your own mind. You are a crazy person. I feel very, very,bad for the girls because if it’s not clear to them that their mother is a leach who is intending on living off of them and that their mother will bleed them dry as she has every person who has ever had the misfortune of crossing paths with her, it will become clear in the future and that is going to be a very dark day in their lives indeed. I am stunned that you lasted as long as you did on television, and I cannot express how happy I am that you have been fired from the show. You are a woman with no moral compass, that is clear, and you have no idea just what a pathetic display of motherhood that you are. It’s truly a wonder that you think that if you keep telling the world what a good person you are, if you just keep pushing yourself on all of us, if you think that if you say it enough and fight about it enough that at some point we will believe you, my god, you are the very definition of delusional! We all watched as you failed at defending yourself when that so called piece of sleaze of a book came out, and since that time you have just become even more over bearing and full of yourself. You possess no talent of your own so you stick to your children or any one else in hopes of profiting from others hard work. You are such an obvious woman and as phony as a three dollar bill. You were trying to use men as nothing more than wallets but when you became well known and your obvious attempts to find your next source of income failed you then chose to write a book that no one cared about, then the so called dancing and singing began ( ugly ), and when that failed you leached on to your daughter Christine, a shallow attempt to relive some sort of past attempt at a life, and now you are making your own daughters life a living hell. Run Christine run, your mother has no soul and in no way deserves you and your sister as daughters!

Danielle, guess what, no one wants to be your friend because you use people for no other reason than to further yourself and if you don’t get that yet then you are not only selfish, but you are also stupid! You are always the victim, every one is always doing you wrong, poor, poor Danielle, I guess you didn’t get the memo about life that most of us get at one point or another…you get what you give, what goes around comes around, karma, do unto others and all of that. You treat people like S$^% and yet you expect to be treated like gold in return? Please go away and learn that the world owes you nothing, that people are precious, and most importantly, please, please, please for once in your life do the right thing and teach your daughters the importance of integrity!!!

The “Real Housewives of New York”, another example of shallow women who truly have no lives and need to get some. I do believe however that out of all of these shows, if this can be said about any of them, this particular show is, along with the Orange County folks, the most realistic. I don’t really have a lot to say about these women except that the Countess is a pretentious person, Jill is a neurotic woman with issues, Ramona is a loose cannon who thinks her you know what doesn’t stink, Kelly is alright in very small doses but definitely a troubled person, Bethanny has built a brand, worked hard at it, finally found the love and family that she wanted, but Bethanny has become some what of an ego monster and may be headed for a rocky future if she doesn’t put herself in check, and Alex and Simon, as phony as I used to think that they were in the beginning, I have to say now that I find them refreshing when compared to the foo foo ladies that make up the rest of the cast. I would much rather watch Alex, Simon, and their children as they are then to put up with any more of the Countess being so arrogant and phony any day of the week. This version of the very lucrative franchise is best watched rarely if you must hahahaRolling Eyes.

The Orange County crew is also best taken with a grain of salt because even though they are in my opinion the most genuine of the ladies, I can only stomach so much of these ladies because too much and my brain begins to shrivelChatterbox. Vicki drives me nuts because she is so incredibly judgmental, sadly Jeanna left the show but I liked her, Lauri was real and nice to watch, Quinn was a bit of a flake but entertaining, Lynn, well Lynn sort of drives me nuts because she has no idea what is really going on in the world, has a problem being a real mother, and doesn’t seem to care one way or the other, Gretchen is obviously trying to become famous and I just don’t see what value she adds to either the show or the world, and then there is TamaraI dont know. Tamara is the queen of drama and also quite blind. Blind because her son is an idiot and needs to have his butt kicked, she is only enabling him and will regret it. Her former husband Simon was a control freak and even when she knew that to be fact she chose to try and work it out rather than leaving sooner than she did. Simon was so clearly upset with Tamara’s changing course because of the show and couldn’t accept that she wanted the attention that the show brought, now she is single again and we are all going to have to hear about her sad story which I am not looking forward to. She is a phony crier, and keeps harping on the fact that her parents divorced when she was twenty five. Hey Tamara, you were twenty five already, give it a rest, how about those of us whose parents split up when we were very young? Stop whining and get a job!!!

Ok, so that’s my take on the Real Housewives, I really cannot see or accept that these shows and the women featured in them represent any thing that is real in my world or the worlds of any of the women I know. Real women that I know don’t spend way too much money on clothes, makeup and surgery, they can’t afford to, and that is real. Real women that I know do not get to go out and party, and travel, and drink champagne with friends and that is real. The real women I know have children who wear them out and cause marital strife and require every ounce of their being at all times and that is real. The real women I know have cheating husbands and cheat on their husbands too and that is real. The real women I know have bills to pay and jobs that they have to do because they do have children and a roof to pay for and they help their husbands and that is real. The real women I know have no help, not even in their own families, and they do every thing from soup to nuts, by them selves and that is real. The real women I know are shocked when some one wants to take their picture and don’t act like it’s so off putting and so laborious and that is real.  the real women I know are single too and have more to do each day then some of you do in a month and that is real. The real women I know would love to have the time and energy to give to charity, and they do, but they don’t need to advertise it and that is real. And the real women I know are lovely and wonderful just as they are and they have no need to tell the world how good and decent and strong that they are because i shows every moment of every day and that my friends is REALApplause!!!

Don’t even get me started on Atlanta hahahahahahaRolling on the floor




Sexuality, the choice is ours so we are told, and for the most part those of us with an ounce of brain matter seem to agree that a person is born with their sexual preference, in other words we cannot seem to get away from the fact that we love who we love and feel safest with whomever that may be, no matter if it is a person of the same sex or not. I wonder then, why, why, why, in this day in age, the government of the United States, and of course the military machine such as it is, is still playing the role of oppressor in matters of the heart? Not only do I wonder that, but I also wonder why the masses still allow this nonsense to go on as long as it has?

I personally have never understood why the millions of us allow the actions of a few to make choices for us that no one wants made. I find it perplexing to say the least. We have decided as a people that there are simply some things about our lives that no one has the right to decide for us, sexual preference is definitely one of those things, so why do the very politicians that we vote for and pay to represent us have any right what so ever to force us all to go along with sheer stupidity like ” Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell “? There are issues in life that are personal, issues that are between each of us and whom ever we believe in as individuals, issues that are no ones business but our own, we say with regularity that the government is not welcome in our bedrooms, why then do we allow them to decide who we choose to spend our personal and private time with?

Not that it matters but I am a hetro-sexual woman and I am considered to be of the more mature crowd hahahaha!, my friends and family sometimes look  at me sideways because I am puzzled at times when I hear someone ask another person what their sexual proclivity is. Why is it any one’s business? Heterosexuals don’t walk around having to declare their being straight, so why would anyone expect that it’s ok to make gay or bisexual persons declare their preferences publicly? It’s truly juvenile behavior on the part of those to take what is an issue of the heart and soul and turn it into a reason to be hateful. It’s pathetic to see those who do not have the best interests of us all in mind turn a personal matter into a reason to hold a person back financially and tell us all that because of who you sleep with you cannot pursue certain employment opportunities even though those opportunities may be your only chance at stability in many areas of your life.

In many employment situations it is against the law to discriminate based on sexual preference but some employers find a way, the worst of these offenders is all branches of the United States military in my opinion. Why are these people allowed to dictate who does what when it comes to the private lives of the men and women who serve when it has been proven time and time again that sexuality has no effect what so ever on a persons ability to do what is required of them in the field of battle? The American military is allowed to break this very basic human right and thwart the laws that the rest of us all live by in the rest of society? Since when was this ok?

President Obama said he wants this policy of oppression repealed, and he is trying in his very slow way to make sure it happens but I just wonder why it all has to be so complicated? It really is simple for everyone if we let it be, just repeal the damned policy, the so-called law, and we can all get on with our lives!!! Why on earth do we have to go through a million people and hear them blah, blah, blah, all day long when we all know that this law is going the way of the dinosaur and that at this stage it’s all nothing more than lip service, meant to give those in opposition a chance to squawk some more and then that will be that? It has to go through committee after committee and survey after survey and group after group and lobbyist after lobbyist and it just makes me sick to see how much time gets wasted by our politicians when the reality is that if they don’t repeal this policy they will be on the wrong side of history. Time is money in a politicians world, and that is our time they waste and our money as well, so again I ask, why do we the millions allow the few to thumb their noses at us and force us to put up with a type of oppression equal to the same oppression of racism and other ugly chapters in our collective human history?

I say NO MORE!!! I say that we all just inundate the White House and American military machine with telephone calls and emails and letters and tweets and Facebook comments and My Space comments and blogs and speeches and what ever form of communication gets the message across that we are TIRED of waiting, stop wasting our time and money, quit with the blah, blah, blah, and REPEAL DON’T ASK DON’T TELL and do it TODAY!!!

What do you think? Let me know and let’s just get this done!!!

Thank You For Dropping By….


Hello Hollywood? It’s Gotten Old Already!!!

I have had enough of people like Lindsay Lohan, Heidi Montag, Mel Gibson, Tiger Woods, Tila Tequila, Paris Hilton, and so many more of the so-called rich and famous, to say they have way too much influence is an understatement and it’s time to put an end to the message that Hollywood is sending. Snooky, JWow, Bristol Palin, Levi Johnston, these are the people our younger people are seeing as examples in life, and now I am pretty sure it’s time to worryNailbiting. These people, most of them, are famous only for being famous, in other words they have contributed nothing to the greater good, they are for the most part what is referred to as fame whores, and instead of being known for their valuable contributions to society, they are instead known for their misdeeds and bad behavior. We now live in a world where bad behavior is rewarded, and it matters, it matters a lot and we need to stop this growing trend or our children will have no other choice but to act like fools in order to get some where in life. My question today is where are all the good people? Are there any good people left to stand as role models, or am I dreaming?

Heidi Montag, a young woman who went and had ten plastic surgeries done on one day in order to become a Hollywood  action star, her words not mine, now regrets her choice and wants us all to feel sorry for her. This woman who was part of the pairing known as “Spiedi”, famous for being obnoxious little twits who couldn’t care less about anyone but themselves, the couple that wrote a book about how to become famous quickly, now wants us to shed a tear for her plight when a mere month ago, if not less, she thumbed her nose at people who tried to tell her that she was in trouble in both her marriage and in her life as an individual. We were the fools according to her and her now soon to be former husband Spencer PrattLoser, we were tired of hearing them cry wolf, and now that she isn’t getting the fame and fortune she seeks, she wants to listen to those wiser than herself now, too little, way too late I say. When she was being told by those in the know that if she wanted to be a famous action star she would have to work at the craft and earn her place in the business the way others have, she shunned their advice, laughed at their efforts to guide her thinking that she and her useless husband knew better, well now, with a pending divorce ( yeah right ) and a career which was fleeting at best and now down the drain, she is now wondering what happened to her opportunities and must face herself in the mirror knowing that she has no one else to blame for her problems but herself…and her loser husband. I am happy now that she and the other twits that plagued our televisions on their show The Hills are off the air, finally some rational reality may be on it’s way back to television, maybe, but I can’t hold my breath just yet.

Paris Hilton recently suffered what could have been a disastrous break in at her home, again, and she Tweeted on Twitter that the guy who broke in had “two huge knives” which implies he was about to be violent, well now, not that I condone the would be thief’s actions but the facts do not bear out Miss Hiltons claims. The police state emphatically that there were no weapons at all, so what was she trying to do here? I am not saying that she deserves to have her home broken in to but she was obviously trying to garner much more public attention and sympathy then she clearly deserves and I am sick of it. Paris Hilton is a woman with a ton of money, no talent what so ever, and a need to keep her name in the publics eye for no good reason. I mean really Paris? Tweeting and taking a video while the police are in front of your house arresting the guy who broke in? Highly suspect in my opinion. I know people who have suffered the trauma of being broken in to and the last thing they think about is Tweeting the world with live shots of the arrest. Can you say “ my name is Paris Hilton and I am a spoiled rotten idiot with an insatiable appetite for attention”? Please go away little girl.

The Jersey Shore, oh my goodnessDoh, now this is a show that may even serve to make the former Hills cast look like a group of puritans hahahahahaRolling on the floor!!! You do understand don’t you, these people get paid BIGMoney Eyes money to tan, do laundry, and go to the gym, the guys do anyway, and then they eat, sleep, and go to clubs to cause problems, fights, and to find idiots to sleep with. Snooky falls in love in five minutes flat and thinks every guy who pays attention to her for three seconds is the love of her life! Snooky drinks like a fish and has now been arrested and charged with being “annoying”, a real charge lol, and for being drunk in public and other charges, tell me, what the hell is so entertaining about this girl and her cohorts? The Situation, Mike, he is nothing more than a grown man with raging hormones who would sleep with any woman on the planet just so that he can brag about it, why is that worth our time and money, don’t we all know people like him, in fact are these sleaze bags not a dime a dozen? JWow loves to fight and will beat the pulp out of anyone that looks at her or her friends sideways, why is that worthy of the time you would waste watching her? Sammy and what’s his face, oh yeah Ronny, the only so called couple on the show, well they break up and get back together every five seconds which creates a lot of drama and again, why is that worth the price we all pay? The only two people on this show that short of have a shot at normalcy are Pauly and Vinny because they at least make an attempt to restrain themselves, the rest of them are beyond idiotic and I really wonder, because of the success of this show specifically, just how far we as a society are going to go in allowing money and fame to rule the dayI dont know?. Yes, we have only ourselves to blame, and my hope is that we change our tune very quickly because young people every where are really going to suffer the consequences if we don’t. This mentality of ours lately that we accept the lowest form of behavior from others because it takes the pressure off of us to behave with grace and dignity is not helping the American image around the rest of the world either. There was a time not too long ago when Americans cared about what the world felt about them as a so called great nation, now however it seems that we can all just suffer because it’s all about the money and to heck with the way it affects every one.

What is very sad here, speaking as a Canadian, is that our own home grown television here in Canada is about as entertaining as watching paint dry, so we have a heck of a lot of American television networks piping through our cable or satellite receivers and it is next to impossible to avoid the American influence on our Canadian life. Money in Canada is not spent on entertainment, we have no money here, the little we do have to spend on the television or movie industries is spent on telling Canadians stories about events that occurred way, way, way, in the past that have no relevance today and trust me, it’s a real snore festSigh. CBC Canada is our so called government run, publicly funded, television network and it is absolutely horrible. The same actors and talk show personnel have been on TV for a hundred years now and it’s really boring and old to say the least.  To look at it one could easily conclude that Canada has about five actors, three actresses, and four news anchors, in total but that’s not true. Much of our talent moves to the United States just so that they can earn a living, but they start out here, and if we were smart we would do all that we could to keep them here, but we do not. The same people, the same programming repeating constantly by the way, and if you have half a brain you have to give yourself a break and watch some American television in order to stay current, That is however the problem, staying current means watching American content, and American content means shows like Jersey Shore, The Bachelor and Bachelorette, The Bachelor Pad, Big Brother, Rock Of Love, I Love Money, Jerry Springer, Maury Povich ( the king of the DNA test ), The Real Housewives ( pick your own city ), and the list goes on and on. I suppose the Law and Order series is good, but even that show gets tedious, I mean it’s just far too obvious now what is going to happen, no stretching the old brain cells there any more. I once heard it said that Hollywood hasn’t had an original idea since it’s inception and I now agree, I mean for heaven’s sake, they are bringing back Hawaii Five O!!! That is a tangible example of just how much of a rut we are all in. Through our television providers and movie theaters we pay many, many, millions of dollars each day to be entertained, but are we getting our monies worth? I say…NO!!!

Ok so let me state the obviousStriaght Face, you could say to me with some authority that if I don’t like what you are seeing, don’t watch, get a life, find something else to do. I agree. The problem is this…money is tight in my world, and in case you didn’t know this as fact, winters in my part of Canada are harsh, cold and isolating, driving is hard, and again, money is an issue. I pay eighty five dollars a month to have satellite TV brought in to my home because I live in a rural area and have no other choice, so what I’m saying is that sometimes, due to sheer boredom and trying to be financially responsible, I watch television more at certain times of the year then I do others and as a consequence I feel ripped off by both my satellite provider and by Canadian content and so I end up tuning in to American television and I am appalled by how much sleaze I am exposed to. Yes I change channels, only to land upon yet another American program with a new twist on so called reality, it is obnoxiousNot talking! An example of why I am concerned is MTV. I like music and I like the younger tone of MTV, but Jersey Shore, really? Is that show really at all representative of music and music history? I think not. Music Television, it’s in the name, so what does this show about drunken, hormone driven, brainless, uninformed, and freakishly selfish young people got to do with music?I mean it’s just an insult to our collective intelligence and these kinds of shows just serve to appeal to our deepest, darkest, ugliest sides and what purpose does that serve? What is to be accomplished with this type of programming? I know people like to watch shows considered brainless and mindlessly entertaining but come on now, what is the end goal here? And what’s to become of these young people if we pay them to behave like cave dwellers and then the show ends, everyone forgets about them, and they have nothing to fall back on? What does this say about our obligation to ensure that young people grow up with the ability to go out in to the world and do the right thing? After this show ends, what in heavens name is someone like Snooky going to do? Is she going to be a teacher or a nurse or a veterinarian as she has stated? Who would hire her? It’s just not realistic to think that when we pay people do be bar room brawlers and mindless buffoons that they will then move on in life to contribute in any positive way in the future.

Our saving grace is a channels like Discovery, shows like Deadliest Catch and others are both entertaining and educational and I wish there were more shows and channels like Discovery. Being educated does not mean having to be bored, and being entertained does not mean that informing people is a bad thing. You can have both and shows on Discovery prove that on a daily basis. Now these shows are real, not scripted reality at all unlike the other networks version of reality Discovery knows the difference. The Learning Channel, also known as TLC, they used to be a good channel until the whole Jon and Kate Plus Eight fiasco took hold and then they began showing their true intentions, this channel used to be about learning, now it’s gone Hollywood and has shows on now that are nothing more than glorified rag magazines on video. I personally have had enough of Kate Gosselin, and I do not believe that any of this exposure is good for her children. I don’t care if they are divorced, I don’t care who is dating and who isn’t, I don’t care about Kate’s hair, what I care about is those children and I was really upset when the whole divorce thing was going on and Kate went on TV and stated repeatedly that “ the children are very upset and sad because the cameras are not around anymore”, what? Really? how is that normal, and how is that good for the kids?Yes, yes I know, Kate and Jon have to support their kids and television offers them the opportunity to make good money, but to what end? Are we going to see these eight children in the future as grown ups in trouble like many children have been that are involved in the business? Between Jon and Kate, Jon a former IT guy and Kate a nurse, couldn’t they earn enough money working those jobs? Yes, they were doing it before, why not now? Other families with lots of children make it, why is this family so special that we have to hear about their nonsense and why are we supposed to feel sorry for them? Why is it so important these days for every Tom, Dick and Harry, or Kate, Paris, and Snooky, to let us know every little detail of their lives? I don’t care who is doing what to whom unless or until it is causing harm to others and does not serve the public good, until then, shut up and get on with your lives!!!

Today while watching a news program, on a serious news  channel for heavens sake, it was announced that Mike The Situation from Jersey Shore, Bristol Palin, famous for nothing but being Sarah Palins daughter and getting pregnant out of wed lock, and David Hasselhoff, a man who keeps trying to relive his glory days on Baywatch and a man with alcohol issues, are but a few of the people that are going to be on the next installment of Dancing With The Stars. Oh for Pete’s sake, are you people serious? YUCK!!! That counts me out as a viewerAt wits end, what a crazy line up, who’s next Hulk Hogan? I mean Kate Gosselin wasn’t bad enough? What a damned joke! This is yet another show that started off with the right concept, and then it went down the drain when they decided to have controversial people on as a way to gain ratings. I know it had to compete with American Idol but please! How about using our minds and imaginations now instead of stooping to the lowest common denominator? Money, money, money, it’s all about the money.

The long and the short of all of this is that we as a society have become so complacent that we seemingly no longer care what we are being spoon fed by Hollywood and it makes me crazy. That’s our money they use to produce this garbage that then gets fed to your children. That’s our time that gets wasted when children ask about why these people get to behave that way and they don’t. How on earth does anyone have a chance at raising good and well rounded children when Hollywood has such a powerful influence in daily life and does nothing but seek to make money with out regard to our children’s futures. We are nothing more than sheep to these big bucks Hollywood types and we allow it to continue. They feed us garbage and we keep eating it, causing them to believe that this is what we want, and so they make more and the cycle continues.

I am not aware of anyone truly making a concerted effort to stop these people from poisoning us with their pathetic productions, I would like to at least start the ball rolling. I would like to begin with taking a poll, and I would like it if people would answer the poll honestly and then after that send me a line to my email address and let me know who you are and how you feel about the question I put to you. I will begin with one show and we will see how it goes from there, I hope you feel free enough to truly participate, all comments welcome…I look forward to hearing from youBig Hug.


Dr. Laura, You Are A Hypocrite!

Oh my goodness, the latest rant from Dr. Laura Schlesinger is so beyond reasonable that I can no longer forgive her and in fact I will be boycotting her from now on and hope that everyone else will do the same. You see here in lays the problem for me, she has done this kind of thing before, spewing nasty remarks about gay people in the past, and she truly thinks that all she has to do is put out an apology and that the matter will end, I say not this time, I pray not this time.

An innocent woman calls into the show and discusses a problem with the fact that she is in a mixed marriage, she being African-American and her husband not, she tells the doctor that her husbands friends make remarks, but she didn’t even say what kind of remarks, nor did she have the chance to become more specific, without even knowing all of the facts the doctor goes in to a racist tirade that made me feel such disgust that I almost cried. The only reason I didn’t cry was because anger took over quite quickly when my memory kicked in regarding Dr. Laura’s past remarks against other groups of people. Dr. Laura used the “N” word eleven times, she told the woman who if she didn’t have a sense of humor or any maturity then she shouldn’t have married out side of her race, and it just get’s worse from there. I have heard this so-called doc insult gay people and for that matter, anyone who doesn’t agree with her various points of view, and I ask myself if this woman with the brains of a cave dweller has any right to be on the air any more, and my answer is NO!!! I am so sick of these so-called famous people spewing out their garbage and because they have a title in front of their names, they get away with it. I wonder how this doctor, if she really is one, keeps up on her training, it doesn’t seem to me that she has because it’s 2010 and it is clear that she missed the sensitivity training that any one in this day and age who does what she does has to take. I’m beyond upset at this point, I am disgusted.

I remember years ago when Dr. Laura went on a tangent about people who get divorced, I used to listen to her back then, and she tore in to every one who got a divorce saying that they would go to hell and that they were morally flawed, I then found out that she herself was on her second marriage! How can she stand as a role model with 9,000,000 listeners and be such a liar and a hypocrite? Why do all of those people accept this nonsense from her? Her advertisers really have to take a long look at this train wreck known as Dr. Laura and leave her alone, they can find another way to make money surely, we don’t need this kind of garbage in our daily lives any more, we really don’t. Practice what you preach or shut up, since when was hypocrisy a good thing to be rewarded? No one let’s me or you get away with it, no one pays any of us to be ill-mannered and wrong do they? Why does Dr. Laura get to be wrong, insulting, demeaning and rude to nine million people and be rewarded for it? Ask yourselves why we as a society keep allowing famous people to insult our intelligence the way we do.

There is of course a certain segment of society that agree with this vile tirade of the doctors, and that will never change sadly, but what about those of us who know better and do not agree? I still, and perhaps naively, believe that people are for the most part good and decent and that if asked would not agree with Dr. Laura, so why do we have to be exposed to her hateful remarks? I know, I know, if you don’t like it don’t listen, I didn’t, I was not listening to her show, I heard it on the news and from friends, so I was exposed and I resent it. People talk and they talk about the news and issues of the day, it’s to be expected, this issue spread like wild-fire and so many people are angry about it that it has gained world-wide attention, that’s classy Dr. Laura, you offend us all with your stupidity.

You spin it, like you have in the past, you try to make it sound better than it was, and in the past people have forgiven you, well I hope with all of my might that this time will be different and that you will be pulled off of the air permanently this time. I cannot stand people who work to get where they are in life only to blow it by being as dumb as a box of rocks. I have seen right through you for years, I know, I feel that you are a racist and I want you gone. You have had a good stretch doc, you have made a ton of money, gained fame, and fulfilled your dreams, so leave us all alone now and retire. Maybe write a book, some may read it, but please don’t continue on with your radio show, please just go away because your agenda is clear and obvious now, your style and thinking is antiquated and you insult the intelligence of many.

Dare I state the obvious…Dr. Laura, you need therapy and you need to retire.